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How I made friends with reality | Emily Levine

February 12, 2020

I’m going to first tell you something that
in my grandmother would’ve elicited a five-oy alarm: “Oy-oy-oy-oy-oy.” (Laughter) And here it is …
are you ready? OK. I have stage IV lung cancer. Oh, I know, “poor me.” I don’t feel that way. I’m so OK with it. And granted, I have certain advantages — not everybody can take
so cavalier an attitude. I don’t have young children. I have a grown daughter who’s
brilliant and happy and wonderful. I don’t have huge financial stress. My cancer isn’t that aggressive. It’s kind of like
the Democratic leadership — (Laughter) not convinced it can win. It’s basically just sitting there, waiting for Goldman Sachs
to give it some money. (Laughter) (Applause) Oh, and the best thing of all — I have a major accomplishment
under my belt. Yes. I didn’t even know it until someone
tweeted me a year ago. And here’s what they said: “You are responsible for the pussification
of the American male.” (Laughter) (Applause) Not that I can take
all the credit, but … (Laughter) But what if you don’t have my advantages? The only advice I can give you
is to do what I did: make friends with reality. You couldn’t have a worse relationship
with reality than I did. From the get-go, I wasn’t even attracted to reality. If they’d had Tinder when I met reality, I would have swiped left and the whole thing would have been over. (Laughter) And reality and I — we don’t share the same values,
the same goals — (Laughter) To be honest, I don’t have goals; I have fantasies. They’re exactly like goals
but without the hard work. (Laughter) (Applause) I’m not a big fan of hard work, but you know reality — it’s either push, push, push, push, push through its agent,
the executive brain function — one of the “yays” of dying: my executive brain function
won’t have me to kick around anymore. (Laughter) But something happened that made me realize that reality may not be reality. So what happened was, because I basically wanted reality
to leave me alone — but I wanted to be left alone
in a nice house with a Wolf range
and Sub-Zero refrigerator … private yoga lessons — I ended up with
a development deal at Disney. And one day I found myself
in my new office on Two Dopey Drive — (Laughter) which reality thought
I should be proud of … (Laughter) And I’m staring at the present
they sent me to celebrate my arrival — not the Lalique vase or the grand piano
I’ve heard of other people getting, but a three-foot-tall,
stuffed Mickey Mouse (Laughter) with a catalog, in case I wanted
to order some more stuff that didn’t jibe with my aesthetic. (Laughter) And when I looked up in the catalog to see how much
this three-foot-high mouse cost, here’s how it was described … “Life-sized.” (Laughter) And that’s when I knew. Reality wasn’t “reality.” Reality was an imposter. So I dived into quantum physics
and chaos theory to try to find actual reality, and I’ve just finished a movie — yes, finally finished — about all that, so I won’t go into it here, and anyway, it wasn’t until
after we shot the movie, when I broke my leg
and then it didn’t heal, so then they had to do
another surgery a year later, and then that took a year — two years in a wheelchair, and that’s when I came
into contact with actual reality: limits. Those very limits I’d spent
my whole life denying and pushing past and ignoring were real, and I had to deal with them, and they took imagination,
creativity and my entire skill set. It turned out I was great
at actual reality. I didn’t just come to terms with it, I fell in love. And I should’ve known, given my equally shaky
relationship with the zeitgeist … I’ll just say, if anyone
is in the market for a Betamax — (Laughter) I should have known that the moment
I fell in love with reality, the rest of the country would decide
to go in the opposite direction. (Laughter) But I’m not here to talk about Trump
or the alt-right or climate-change deniers or even the makers of this thing, which I would have called a box, except that right here, it says, “This is not a box.” (Laughter) They’re gaslighting me. (Laughter) (Applause) But what I do want to talk about is a personal challenge to reality that I take personally, and I want to preface it
by saying that I absolutely love science. I have this — not a scientist myself — but an uncanny ability to understand
everything about science, except the actual science — (Laughter) which is math. But the most outlandish concepts
make sense to me. The string theory; the idea that all of reality emanates
from the vibrations of these teeny — I call it “The Big Twang.” (Laughter) Wave-particle duality: the idea that one thing
can manifest as two things … you know? That a photon can manifest
as a wave and a particle coincided with my deepest intuitions that people are good and bad, ideas are right and wrong. Freud was right about penis envy and he was wrong about who has it. (Laughter) (Applause) Thank you. (Applause) And then there’s this slight
variation on that, which is reality looks like two things, but it turns out to be the interaction
of those two things, like space — time, mass — energy and life and death. So I don’t understand — I simply just don’t understand the mindset of people who are out
to “defeat death” and “overcome death.” How do you do that? How do you defeat death
without killing off life? It doesn’t make sense to me. I also have to say, I find it incredibly ungrateful. I mean, you’re given
this extraordinary gift — life — but it’s as if you had asked Santa
for a Rolls-Royce Silver Shadow and you had gotten
a salad spinner instead. You know, it’s the beef — the beef with it is that it comes
with an expiration date. Death is the deal breaker. I don’t get that. I don’t understand — to me, it’s disrespectful. It’s disrespectful to nature. The idea that we’re going
to dominate nature, we’re going to master nature, nature is too weak
to withstand our intellect — no, I don’t think so. I think if you’ve actually read
quantum physics as I have — well, I read an email
from someone who’d read it, but — (Laughter) You have to understand that we don’t live in Newton’s
clockwork universe anymore. We live in a banana peel universe, and we won’t ever be able
to know everything or control everything or predict everything. Nature is like a self-driving car. The best we can be is like
the old woman in that joke — I don’t know if you’ve heard it. An old woman is driving with her middle-aged daughter
in the passenger seat, and the mother goes
right through a red light. And the daughter doesn’t want to say
anything that makes it sound like, “You’re too old to drive,” so she didn’t say anything. And then the mother
goes through a second red light, and the daughter,
as tactfully as possible, says, “Mom, are you aware that you just went through
two red lights?” And the mother says, “Oh, am I driving?” (Laughter) (Applause) So … and now, I’m going to take a mental leap, which is easy for me because
I’m the Evel Knievel of mental leaps; my license plate says, “Cogito, ergo zoom.” I hope you’re willing
to come with me on this, but my real problem with the mindset
that is so out to defeat death is if you’re anti-death, which to me translates as anti-life, which to me translates as anti-nature, it also translates to me as anti-woman, because women have long been
identified with nature. And my source on this is Hannah Arendt, the German philosopher who wrote
a book called “The Human Condition.” And in it, she says that classically, work is associated with men. Work is what comes out of the head; it’s what we invent, it’s what we create, it’s how we leave our mark upon the world. Whereas labor is associated with the body. It’s associated with the people
who perform labor or undergo labor. So to me, the mindset that denies that, that denies that we’re in sync
with the biorhythms, the cyclical rhythms of the universe, does not create a hospitable
environment for women or for people associated with labor, which is to say, people that we associate
as descendants of slaves, or people who perform manual labor. So here’s how it looks
from a banana-peel-universe point of view, from my mindset, which I call
“Emily’s universe.” First of all, I am incredibly grateful for life, but I don’t want to be immortal. I have no interest in having
my name live on after me. In fact, I don’t want it to, because it’s been my observation that no matter how nice and how brilliant or how talented you are, 50 years after you die, they turn on you. (Laughter) And I have actual proof of that. A headline from the Los Angeles Times: “Anne Frank: Not so nice after all.” (Laughter) Plus, I love being in sync with the cyclical rhythms of the universe. That’s what’s so extraordinary about life: it’s a cycle of generation, degeneration, regeneration. “I” am just a collection of particles that is arranged into this pattern, then will decompose and be available, all of its constituent parts, to nature, to reorganize into another pattern. To me, that is so exciting, and it makes me even more grateful
to be part of that process. You know, I look at death now from the point of view
of a German biologist, Andreas Weber, who looks at it as part
of the gift economy. You’re given this enormous gift, life, you enrich it as best you can, and then you give it back. And, you know, Auntie Mame
said, “Life is a banquet” — well, I’ve eaten my fill. I have had an enormous appetite for life, I’ve consumed life, but in death, I’m going to be consumed. I’m going into the ground
just the way I am, and there, I invite every microbe and detritus-er and decomposer to have their fill. I think they’ll find me delicious. (Laughter) I do. So the best thing about my attitude,
I think, is that it’s real. You can see it. You can observe it. It actually happens. Well, maybe not my enriching the gift, I don’t know about that — but my life has certainly
been enriched by other people. By TED, which introduced me
to a whole network of people who have enriched my life, including Tricia McGillis,
my website designer, who’s working with my wonderful daughter to take my website
and turn it into something where all I have to do is write a blog. I don’t have to use
the executive brain function … Ha, ha, ha, I win! (Laughter) And I am so grateful to you. I don’t want to say “the audience,” because I don’t really see it
as we’re two separate things. I think of it in terms
of quantum physics, again. And, you know, quantum physicists
are not exactly sure what happens when the wave becomes a particle. There are different theories — the collapse of the wave function, decoherence — but they’re all agreed on one thing: that reality comes into being
through an interaction. (Voice breaking) So do you. And every audience I’ve ever had, past and present. Thank you so much for making my life real. (Applause) Thank you. (Applause) Thank you. (Applause) Thank you. (Applause) Thank you.


  • Reply flash gordon md February 5, 2019 at 1:22 am

    i hadn't seen this talk until today. i'm so happy i did. thanks for giving it back, emily. godspeed.

  • Reply ES February 25, 2019 at 1:13 pm

    Nice lady but the thing is the physical universe don't share your joy of reality.Here we should take a page from Nietzsche inventing meaning =self delusions

  • Reply Nathalie B March 5, 2019 at 2:37 pm

    This is how I always feel about life and death !!! This is disrespectful to the nature that we always fight with death and never really live. Never enjoy of our gifts , lives . I love life , I love earth , I love animals (that’s why I am vegan) but I also love my death !!! That’s why I try to enjoy while I am here and let others enjoy after me . Living as light as I can and be gentle to trees , animals and our beautiful earth 🌍

  • Reply yashiWinchester March 8, 2019 at 3:02 am

    This is just so brilliant!

  • Reply çeci n’est pas une pipe March 10, 2019 at 1:19 am

    She’s talking about the ancient archetype of Saturn. Structure, limitation, patience, maturity, learning through hard knocks: REALITY

    (Oh horror)

  • Reply Dale Robertson March 11, 2019 at 7:29 am

    Death is but the next great adventure

  • Reply Farida John March 11, 2019 at 6:07 pm


  • Reply Jason Breniser March 12, 2019 at 5:12 am

    The old lady driving joke is wonderful

  • Reply Natalia Palovcak March 12, 2019 at 8:42 am

    Follow Natures Way Universal LIGHT…….We are the Light slowly making our way back home. Earth is a school where we have many lessons to learn about LOVE and Forgiveness for the evolution of our souls

  • Reply Allyssa Cooley March 13, 2019 at 1:00 am

    What a beautiful soul

  • Reply Rajat Sharma March 13, 2019 at 7:51 pm

    So simple yet so profound

  • Reply melisseus March 14, 2019 at 9:57 am


  • Reply Charlcye Bryson March 14, 2019 at 1:43 pm

    Love her! Enneagram Type 7 for sure!

  • Reply pearl nuri March 15, 2019 at 3:25 am

    Can someone explain or elaborate the point she makes with anti death equating to those who are anti women and people who do labour?

  • Reply Ziggy3339 March 16, 2019 at 2:47 am

    Beautiful. She’s SO beautiful. Thank you, thank her, thank God. What an incredible 💝 gift. Clap clap clap 👏🏼

  • Reply ND ND March 16, 2019 at 4:07 pm


  • Reply Rozemarijn van der Steen March 19, 2019 at 2:57 am

    What an incredible lady! Thank you for making me feel better about my own mortality Levine! I am not at all at the point where I would be able to embrace death, and I really admire this lady. What a courage, what selflessness!

  • Reply Anders B March 19, 2019 at 6:35 am

    Wow. She is smart and funny! Thank you for your grace and humility!

  • Reply Sapovne March 19, 2019 at 10:44 am

    This talk should have million of views. Wow!

  • Reply kliudrsfhlih March 20, 2019 at 4:55 am

    this is an example of someone who has real depth to them

  • Reply Matt Timmiss March 21, 2019 at 12:26 pm

    She reminds me so much of Frankie from Grace and Frankie. Her tone of voice, her look, her outlook, her philosophy, uncanny!

  • Reply niyati thakur March 21, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    Acceptance and gratitude. Delicious

  • Reply jc March 23, 2019 at 7:39 am

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌈🌈🌈🌈me too🌈‼️‼️❤️❤️❤️

  • Reply Adj Acqua March 23, 2019 at 12:34 pm

    That’s was simply beautiful! I love this woman’s spirit and I have been touched by her words and humour. May her soul rest in perfect peace… such a treasure!

  • Reply John Hunter March 23, 2019 at 1:06 pm

    Reality… the antidote to religion.

  • Reply R C March 24, 2019 at 1:50 am

    I need to listen to this every day!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

  • Reply kharisma citra March 24, 2019 at 4:52 am

    Damn i love her green converse

  • Reply Chung Seng March 24, 2019 at 11:22 am


  • Reply Klea Tselentis March 25, 2019 at 12:40 pm

    This wonderful person passed on the 3rd of Feb. Just by watching this I'm sure we can say she enriched our lives.

  • Reply Jill OM March 25, 2019 at 1:17 pm

    Beautiful. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • Reply Kovu Kingsrod March 25, 2019 at 2:41 pm

    What a brilliant talk from a brilliant woman 😀

  • Reply Kovu Kingsrod March 25, 2019 at 2:51 pm

    Just watched this and discovered she passed on the 3rd of February this year, so a month and a half or so before I found this talk. Currently looking through her website. She was an incredible woman. I’m sure every microbe, detritus-er and decomposer are finding you delicious indeed 🙂

  • Reply susannahXD March 25, 2019 at 3:00 pm

    I love that she talks about making friends with reality and then spends the entire lecture coming out with the most whack ideas I've ever heard.

    (PS: Also, she's on point the majority of the time tbh, so go her. The cyclical rhythms of the universe – I freakin love it!!!!)

  • Reply Pete Sessa March 26, 2019 at 2:20 pm

    This appears to have been a waste of 15 minutes of consciousness. Ms. Levine was neither funny, nor enlightening. While I like the diversity of the TED talks, I must say this not close to what, normally, has me wanting more. Her obtuse references to people as well as Newtonian Physics, Donald Trump, and a cardboard box just after referencing alt-left talking points made me put the brakes on this "stop light" dribble. By the time she got around to "nailing women to the cross of inhumanity," I was done with it.

    This does not mean I don't appreciate another vantage points from those who are suppose to be oracles of the day. However, at some stage, everyone has got to know when the road baloney some is shoveling is something you don't have to eat. Yes, we can.

  • Reply KalahariKAri March 26, 2019 at 2:24 pm

    I love Emily sooooo much! Whatever form she's in now is perfect. Cogito Ergo Zoooom is my new battle cry…. and maybe a T shirt. 🙂

  • Reply Isaac F. March 26, 2019 at 5:22 pm

    I love how she came out swinging @ the Democratic establishment. Nancy Pelosi is shaking.

  • Reply Marcia Corbin March 27, 2019 at 1:26 am

    Thank you Emily for your interpretation of "Emily's Universe" you have just acquired another satellite….well done

  • Reply brian brenton March 27, 2019 at 3:35 am

    It only means, 'I love you, too."

  • Reply Lou-Ann Daprato March 27, 2019 at 11:13 am

    oy, oy, oy, oy, oy awesome

  • Reply Emma Leadbetter March 27, 2019 at 11:24 am

    😖😢ahh she was brilliant🎆🎉.god bless her 💝

  • Reply Livia Martins March 27, 2019 at 2:40 pm


  • Reply Mary Jane Hancock March 27, 2019 at 3:12 pm

    Awesome!! Needed your message today. Thank you!!

  • Reply Heinz Voss March 27, 2019 at 4:46 pm

    "What the Caterpillar calls the End of the World, the Master calls a Butterfly!" Richard Bach. Here is another Reality Check: Do we really die, or are we just moving on to another sphere, based on how we treated out fellow human beings, who walked this planet with us for a while.
    If this is true, then, Emily hit the jackpot, Love is, Love does, I mean, she was already surrounded by Love, when she was still here, as this clip demonstrates. Imagine where she is now…

  • Reply John McGuire March 27, 2019 at 10:26 pm

    Defeating death doesn't make sense to you. Either you're fronting for the elite (YUP), or you simply don't belong among them.

  • Reply Eve K March 28, 2019 at 3:22 am

    What a sweetheart.

  • Reply Eugene Aniar March 28, 2019 at 6:45 am

    Love it! Thanks Madame. 💙 thats a nice way of looking at reality indeed.

  • Reply Tony and Crystal Day March 28, 2019 at 11:30 am

    Emily Levine I love you your brilliant thank you for sharing you story and the Wisdom of your life time

  • Reply Dayra ps March 28, 2019 at 4:14 pm

    What a beautiful soul. Hermosa un ejemplo a seguir

  • Reply Owasim Ahmed March 28, 2019 at 6:28 pm

    She is an absolute masterpiece !

  • Reply Mert March 28, 2019 at 8:43 pm

    We all came from stardust and will be stardust eventually. Thank you so much for giving us the opportunity to meet your reality!

  • Reply オランダ日本JN March 29, 2019 at 5:54 pm

    She made my day a bit better

  • Reply reganovich March 29, 2019 at 6:25 pm

    This is beautiful…thank you Emily

  • Reply LaTonya T. Sanders March 29, 2019 at 7:44 pm

    This was THE BEST TED TALKS that I have ever viewed! Simply Powerful! Sorry to hear about her passing, but as she stated the earth will find her delicious! Much respect!

  • Reply freshencounter March 29, 2019 at 8:03 pm

    May we all be so curious about life and each other, and find our grounded power in Life’s gift of vulnerability!

    May she live on in all of us, for our own sakes. 🙏🏾❤️

  • Reply Mehrnoosh Azem March 29, 2019 at 9:36 pm

    Amazing talk! Thank you

  • Reply Sharon Rose March 29, 2019 at 10:24 pm

    Delicious indeed. Comedy is like a gift economy too. The give and take of joy and laughter can help anyone who lets it. Good journeys Emily.

  • Reply Michael Boylan March 30, 2019 at 12:03 pm

    Ted Talks are theatrical monologues for dumbos

  • Reply m b March 30, 2019 at 1:38 pm

    Everyone has an individual reality they create on their own and none of us are responsible for the others reAlity whether good or bad so said my psych professor.

  • Reply Atiya Muhammad March 30, 2019 at 2:49 pm

    I seen the outfit and said this lady has something to say! 👍

  • Reply Gayle Carter March 30, 2019 at 2:53 pm

    tears came to my eyes as her voice broke .Quantum science says reality happens upon interaction as she thanks the audience for her reality .Such a gift

  • Reply Malak Alguliyeva March 30, 2019 at 4:25 pm

    I am overthinking and that is why I am a mess

  • Reply Rebecca Heuston March 30, 2019 at 5:01 pm

    How can I tell you how right you are when you've had the chutzpah to die and not say so first

  • Reply Terry LionHeart March 30, 2019 at 6:02 pm

    OMG Emily… There's someone else who sees life as I do! I especially love the difference between Goals & Fantasy ha! However I would prefer being floated out on a wooden raft & set afire as my Music, I'm a Singer, played & Loved Ones waved Farewell. 💜

  • Reply cheez whiz March 30, 2019 at 6:46 pm

    those shoes are dope

  • Reply Storm Meridian Dee The Broccoli Fox March 31, 2019 at 6:13 pm

    What an absolute treasure of a person she is. I'm in an incredibly dark place right now and I thought this might be a good topic for me given the title of the talk. What a pleasure it was to watch, especially knowing this perfect stranger made it possible for me to smile for nearly fifteen minutes, which to me is incredible and I'm very grateful. On top of that simple fact, I find I have much more to consider than I did before watching this talk. Thank you. <3

  • Reply Jesus King March 31, 2019 at 6:42 pm

    She is remarkable, I love it! Thanks 😊

  • Reply Kathleen M. Higgins March 31, 2019 at 9:33 pm

    Delightful you!
    So wonderful to find there is no death ~ only more and then some!
    P.S🎆. Math is married to music🎶💗🎶💫🎶💜🎶💫🎶💛🎶💫💙🎶💫💟🎶

  • Reply Selestine Bow March 31, 2019 at 10:19 pm

    OMG!!!! I love it!!!! You are hilarious !❤️

  • Reply Virgina Shaffer April 1, 2019 at 2:49 am

    Sad! She really doesn't mention God or infinite source…I hope she finds peace…

  • Reply TheMadPillow April 1, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Reality demands our complete skillset, and so we can love just as we love demanding people? She also said reality is an impostor. Difficult ideas.

  • Reply Susanna Saunders April 1, 2019 at 6:47 am

    Only in America…

  • Reply Get IT J April 2, 2019 at 6:16 am

    Love her topic bc I am not friends with any of my reality. She made it funny and entertaining. Hate to hear she passed. Sort of lost me toward the end tho

  • Reply René Fabre April 3, 2019 at 4:27 am

    Bless you Emily! This talk is so precious. And thanks for sharing real.

  • Reply Алексей Сидоров April 3, 2019 at 5:46 am

    Золотые слова!!!!!

  • Reply All is in April 3, 2019 at 6:30 am

    Love & light, sister.
    Thank you.

  • Reply Vedawattie Ram April 4, 2019 at 12:49 am

    The limits were real…

  • Reply If moths had eyes April 4, 2019 at 7:08 am

    Cogito ergo ZOOM 😂

  • Reply Erick Alvarez April 6, 2019 at 4:31 am

    "I have fantasies. They are like goals, but without the hard work." Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha she described the lives of almost 99% of people in a few seconds 😂😂.

  • Reply Patricia Parra April 8, 2019 at 10:57 am

    Emily passed away early in the morning on Sunday February 3, 2019. What an amazing spirit! Thank you Emily.

  • Reply Charm Reality April 9, 2019 at 10:41 am

    Such a wonderful and enriching speech.. Something to look forward into. ~reality

  • Reply Cynthia Hawkins April 13, 2019 at 11:25 pm

    This is so spot on after learning of Ms. Levine's passing. My sister's beloved pet died today. Lively, funny, quick witted, bonded with us – Chase was actually a brown and white domestic rat. He was 2 1/2-3 yrs old, that is quite long in the fang, for a rodent. After over two years of fun, and great companionship (rats are gonzo smart), he began to fail, and he stopped eating. Nature was speaking. We listened. My sister fed Chase some CBD in water, with a dropper, to keep him comfy and calm. Last night she put him in his towel bed, and he quietly drifted off to sleep, and did not wake up. . "Do not go gently into that good night – rage, rage against the dying of the light"..Well, maybe, not so much. Rest well, Ms. Levine..

  • Reply Cynthia Hawkins April 14, 2019 at 2:21 pm

    In my salad days (decades ago) I worked at the 'PROV Budd Friedman's Improvisation way back then was based on 44th street in NYC. They hadn't yet moved the club to Los Angeles. I remember the NYC Stickball Team, a wildly creative, off the wall group. Including Steve Landesberg, as well. Maybe Liz Torres? Emily was the girl, jump-in-with-both-feet ready for whatever onstage!! With her mop of dark hair, lively sparkling 'tude, and comedic brilliance, she was hard to miss. And, impossible to forget. Bless her heart, oy….such nice memories.

  • Reply Danyel Cavazos April 21, 2019 at 10:18 pm

    I appreciate her talk but quantum mechanics is not a license to suspend reason, nor is it an assurance that we don't live in a clockwork universe. I agree with her when she says that she only knew about QM through secondary sources. Please stop using QM as a leeway into any analogy with mysticism that you can think of.

  • Reply Sovereign Venture April 22, 2019 at 10:05 pm

    Thank you so much for making my life real.

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  • Reply ivanbarbosa81 May 12, 2019 at 12:54 am

    Am i driving! This Lady is so truth delicious

  • Reply Rui Viegas May 16, 2019 at 2:35 pm

    9:52 stupid bloke on white shirt! Or maybe he just woke up with everyone else laughing.

  • Reply Michael Deering May 21, 2019 at 3:29 am

    No. Just no.

  • Reply Hi, Elmer! June 23, 2019 at 11:19 pm

  • Reply Nurse_Neurotic July 8, 2019 at 2:54 am

    RIP amazing lady! I’m sure wherever you are your learning and your loving!

  • Reply Terry M July 9, 2019 at 10:30 pm

    incredible! we need more of this

  • Reply xodancerxo312 July 14, 2019 at 5:18 pm

    This is fantastic. What a mind.

  • Reply LoveFlatfootin1 August 5, 2019 at 5:39 pm

    LOL, "A five-oy alarm." I can relate!

  • Reply Daniel Kuhne September 19, 2019 at 8:41 pm

    A person to fall in love with. She was beautiful in so many ways.

  • Reply Moncef el mansouri October 8, 2019 at 1:06 pm

    Mot clé = tomber amoureux de la réalité ❤❤❤🙏👍👍👍

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  • Reply Titania Sky November 18, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    I hope this will still be me in 80 years, cuz I'm 23 and this is how I feel now, and I don't ever want to become so desperate to live longer that I desire to defeat death.

  • Reply Jamie Lu December 9, 2019 at 7:03 am

    This is the most beautiful ted talk. RIP

  • Reply Dan January 10, 2020 at 8:05 am

    "Thanks for making my life real"
    Anybody else think that this was a reference towards the colapse of the wave funtion? It only existed becuase there was an observer to it… she is amazing

  • Reply Juliette V February 4, 2020 at 3:35 am

    I've been in a very existentially somber mood recently, which is what lead me down a rabbit hole of Ted Talks and, ultimately, here. Then, I read from a comment by Klea Tselentis that Emily passed on February 3rd, and that struck me so deeply because today is also February 3rd. Thank you for this, Emily.

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